V is for ... Vows

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Writing your own vows can be a very romantic idea, however, it can be harder than you think!

Where do you start? What do you say to each other?

What if one of you is really nervous about saying your vows anyway, let alone having to write them?

We've taken a few tips from Victoria J.Brown, qualified wedding planner, 'The Bride and Groom's Fun Guide to Planning a Wedding'

Writing Your Vows

She Says

‘Wouldn’t it be lovely to write our own vows?’

She Means

‘I want you to tell me how much you love me.’

He Says

‘Don’t we just say I do?’

He Means

‘I do want to marry you but ...

I’m quite nervous about this part, what if I cry in front of my mates?’

Tips

On Writing Your Own Vows

Before you decide whether writing your own vows is definitely something you want to

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do, acquire the vow sheet from your registrar/vicar as the traditional vows are lovely and pertinent for most couples.
However, if both of you agree to write your own, you have nothing to worry about. However, if one of you is not so keen, then why not write them together? Instead of searching in different directions for the right words to say.
If you feel let down that your other-half really doesn’t want to write their own, maybe you need to think about why you feel so down. As they will still be marrying you, they will still be saying words that are true. If you need reassurance, why not ask them to write some words of their own, just for the two of you, instead of declaring their love in front of an audience.
Some people simply don’t like that type of attention, nothing to do with love, marriage and happy ever-after. As long as the words ‘I will’ are declared, there should be no issue of your love for each other.