5 Tips, if your wedding planning is taking over your relationship!

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You either understand this because you're in the midst of it, or you've seen it happen to other couples!

We did a blog post on Monday about Fawn Weaver's book, 'Happy Wives Club,' the reason we love this book so much is it focuses on marriage. And sometimes in the midst of wedding planning couples can forget why they are planning a wedding!

You may ask, how on earth can a couple forget why they are planning a wedding? Well, the wedding becomes an event, the symbol behind the wedding becomes lost and all of a sudden the detail outweighs the reason behind this wonderful celebration!

We've put some tips together to help you through this wedding planning frenzy!

Date each other without mentioning weddings!

When you first met you didn't automatically talk about getting married, well maybe you did, but

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hopefully you got to know each other before any rings were produced! Once a week arrange a date night, this could be a meal out, a night at the cinema or even a cosy night in! There is just one rule ... NO WEDDING TALK!

Stick to the Budget!

Money can cause so many arguments. If you didn't set a budget initially, you really must look at your finances. Wedding costs will run away with themselves, before you know where you are you've maxed out three credit cards and no idea how to pay them back. Don't let the lack of finances or control of finances get out of hand. Sit down together and ensure you are spending what you can afford.

Don't get hung-up on having the 'BEST WEDDING EVER!'

We totally believe in having a wedding that is unique to you. That doesn't mean it has to be expensive. There are so many quirky ideas and things you can add to your day that will make your guests remember it. You don't need to have the most expensive designer dress, (most of your guests probably wouldn't know who designed it ... they probably won't know if it's in season or not!). Think about your tastes and what do you both want most from your wedding. Trying to impress others will not make you happy!

And don't get hung-up on too much detail!

Yes, we love a themed wedding, as long as it relates to the couple and shows off their personality. If it's what the couple want and they are not influenced by others. However, there comes a point where you might need to stop! If you're lying awake on a night thinking about the colour of napkins, or whether there are enough diamantes' in your bouquet, just stop! Wedding planning is supposed to be fun. If you find that the smaller details are stressing you out, you've gone too far! It really doesn't matter if your napkins match! In fact, a mismatched wedding could be your theme!

Is there a particular person (persons) stressing you out?

You could have an interfering mother / mother-in-law or maybe your family isn't showing that much interest in your wedding. People have different personalities, and one thing is for sure, these personalities will come to the forefront when planning a wedding. If you feel someone is being over-powering, try and sit down with them and talk through your plans. Include them, but keep control. If you feel someone isn't showing any interest, maybe they don't know how too. Maybe they think you want to do it yourself, or maybe they don't know where to start. Ask for help if you need it. If you think someone could be a bit more involved, ask them to be.

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The main thing about your wedding is, it is about the two of you. Yes, it's also about family and friends spending this special occasion with you, but fundamentally this wedding is about you both spending the rest of your lives together.

Don't forget that your wedding is about marriage. It's amazing to have an awesome day that celebrates your commitment, but keep focused on the fun aspects of the day and remember, this day is primarily about your love for each other.